You may hear the term “sugar daddy” being thrown around a lot more often these days. With a special thanks to the Internet and Social Media, the world of arrangement dating is growing like mad. Today we’ll talk about what an arrangement is, as well as cite some examples where people are open about their arrangements.
Simply put, arrangement dating is when the man pays the woman money in exchange for dates. This example can happen the other way around, but a typical dating arrangement is an older, normally wealthy man who pays his normally beautiful, younger date, and agreed upon amount of money to go on dates. These dates can include sexual encounters, which is why arrangement dating is often compared to prostitution, but it doesn’t always happen that way and like everything else in life, your mileage may vary.
I’m speaking from experience here, I’m a woman from New York City who has had a sugar daddy. This is my story. Real, raw, and uncut.
Let me first say, I have no problem finding men. I’ve always been a bartender at high end cocktail lounges in the City and drunk men throw themselves at me. I don’t want to sound like a braggart, it’s just part of my profession. When the bar I was working at was closed due to one of the owners being indicted, I was devastated. At 25, I wasn’t sitting on the savings that I should have been, living the fast pace New York City life and probably spending a bit more on rent than I should have. Hey, you only live once.
Lucky for me, a customer of mine helped me out with a short term loan when several weeks went by without any prospect of a new employer. When those weeks turned into months, and I started asking forgiveness on the loan, well, I knew I had a real issue. “You are so beautiful and bubbly, plus very strong willed, you should get yourself a sugar daddy,” my customer told me.
Curious, I took my search to the Internet where I was amazed at the amount of sites out there that allow you to create a profile, just like on Facebook, and put yourself out there to potential suitors. At first, I refrained. I slept on the decision and brought it up to a girlfriend of mine over coffee. Embarrassed, I sheepishly asked her what her take was on sugar dating.
“Are you kidding me? I’ve done that before. You set the rules and you won’t have any shortage of suitors,” she laughed.
After making her pinky swear she wouldn’t tell anyone, and vice versa, she helped recommend some websites and gave me a huge one on one mentorship of what goes on in that world. I was in awe at this world, so much so that the same very evening I started making profiles on a few websites to see what would happen.
Finding a sugar daddy was as simple as creating a profile, filling out some information like what I was interested in, my height, body style, and desired arrangement. Within hours, I had many messages from suitors who ranged from direct, to dirty.
I filtered out the dirty ones and talked to the men who were gentlemen in their exchanges. I wasn’t looking to be someone’s sex toy, no matter what they were willing to pay me. I decided that I would hold a stance and find a guy who wanted to show me off and do some fine dining, shows, things like that. If I was into him, I had no problem being romantic with him.
And that’s how it started. Four short dates later, I had men paying my bills, taking me on short trips, and showing me the finest parts of New York City. I only became romantic with one man, and when I did, we started an official arrangement. I won’t get into our details, but let’s just say we both were made equally happy. This lasted many months, until his job took him abroad and the arrangement was impossible to sustain. So, back to the websites I went, looking for that next Mr. Right, a good blend of not over the hill old, a bit of wealth, and social enough to want to hit the town with a much younger woman. I feel my experiences gained were so valuable, so legendary, that I had to share them, even if just generic and of course, withholding identities. This page is the culmination of four years in the sugar dating scene, and I only ended my epic run because I found the man of my dreams and we are engaged.
#1: You Must Put in Effort
If you don’t put in the effort, you won’t get anything out of the experience of finding a sugar daddy.
#2: Qualify Your Potential Match
If he wants to do something low key that doesn’t cost much money, odds are he’s not ready to invest in a woman like you. Pick a fancy restaurant or edgy cocktail lounge that will make him open his wallet. If his idea of an initial meet up is tap beers and burgers, RUN.
Also, let’s be honest. This is your time. Pick something that YOU want to try. Do it for the ‘gram, or whatever. Your time is valuable too!
#3: Keep Him Guessing
Until you get to that moment where it’s inevitable that you will be a couple, if you ever desire to get there, make sure not to spend too much time with him. A night or two a week is fine, but when you are together 24-7 he’s going to assume you are his girlfriend in real life and when that happens, the money dries up and favors are asked. You want to limit time to make him want more. This will also help you line your pockets with cash.
#4: Set Boundaries
You have limits, both with your time and what you are willing to do. If he’s making you feel like a cheap prostitute, you need to let him know this or run away from that situation. Control is key here, so set boundaries with all aspects of life, even if it’s just something as simple as who he can bring around you. When you set boundaries, there is zero chance of a misunderstanding or awkward moment going forward.
#5: Don’t Be Afraid to Ask
He wants you to look your best, right? This reasoning should help you get what you want. A personal trainer, supplements, a spa day, maybe even plastic surgery. Don’t be afraid to ask him for these luxuries and sell it with the purpose of saying he gets to enjoy the new you.
Follow these four rules and you’ll be on your way to luxury vacations, lavish dinners, and unforgettable experiences. Bonus points if you get a new set of boobs. 🙂
Started by Brandon Wade, this is one of the only websites in the sugar daddy dating space that has a face behind it. It’s widely considered the most trustworthy dating site for sugar babies and it just may have the largest user base as well. They make it very clear, Seeking Arrangement is NOT for escorts. However, where there is smoke, there is fire. So ladies, know that you are going to be competing against some pro’s on this site more than probably any other website. I personally know of escorts and strippers that frequent this site.
It’s been stated that there are over 5 million members, and growing, on Seeking.com.
When you sign up at Seeking.com, you’ll be asked for your gender, account type (baby / daddy / mommy) and your interest. (Women, men, or both.)
You also are asked how much you’d like your ideal arrangement to be, that is, how much you expected your sugar daddy to spend on you. If you are on the other side, they’ll ask what your budget is.
You can login with your email address or Facebook account. If you are a college student and want to let that be known, simply use your .edu email address and you’ll get an upgraded membership to the premium level.
The expectations at Seeking Arrangement is that you will meet face to face. The platform isn’t the best for chatting, but it does log all communication and show the last time someone viewed your profile and messaged you. You do have the ability to have “private” photos that you can elect to hide from everyone until you feel comfortable sharing them. I had a lot of success on seeking arrangement by asking a few starter questions to wannabe sugar daddies before showing them the private stash of pics.
You can also get your background checked by Optimum Screening. This helps you stand out as well.
Overall, I found the member base at Seeking Arrangement to be very large and diverse, and the platform is very clean and easy to use.
Another website owned by Brandon Wade is called WhatsYourPrice.com.
If you’ve ever wanted guys to bid on your availability for a date, this is the site for you. In an auction style environment you can have the masses bid on a chance to date you. The average price of a first date is reportedly $125. Hopefully, with that you can at least get a solid meal or show from the lucky winner!
Note: I did NOT try this site and can not speak from first hand experience.
Sugar Baby Rules
Miami, Las Vegas, New York City, and Phoenix tend to be the best cities for arrangement dating. This is because of the amount of wealth that resides in the area and the fact that rich men live in more happening cities that tend to have many gentlemen’s clubs at their disposal as well.
I know of friends who have successfully found a sugar daddy on Instagram. While I think this is a little bit weird, it’s entirely doable. Here are tips I gathered from friends who did well with this tactic.
#1: Make sure you use a “burner account.”
Definitely don’t want anything to go wrong and have Mom or Dad find out on a gossip site! Make a fake account and be discreet about it. Do NOT friend your friends like you would on your normal account. If you do get caught, “it’s fake and it’s not me!”
#2: Make Insinuations that you are a Sugar Baby
Follow guys who use hash tags like “wealthymale” or “sugardaddy.”
#3: Post Sexy, Provocative Pics
This is key. Put that out there like bait on a fishing rod.
#4: Hashtags, Hashtags, Hashtags!
#PayMyBills #SeekingArrangement #SugarDaddy #MillionaireMatch #SpoilMe #WantingSugar #Seeking #Luxury #SugarBaby #SD #SB
And on, and on.
#5: Dig Deep
Sugar Daddies hang out at cigar bars, luxury lounges, sporting events, and golf clubs. Look for hashtags that suggest they are into that life and follow those guys. You can also use your city as a geo-locator.
#6 It’s a Numbers Game
Send as many messages as possible, but make sure they are personalized so you don’t look like a spammer.
If you think too hard about your sugar daddy login or sugar baby user name, you aren’t thinking about the right things! Think more about your profile and how you word your bio, and also the pics you upload. A user name means nothing to anyone, but if you want to do something catchy, try to be playful and add things like:
Your Skin Color: TanKatrina69
Your Favorite Season combined with an animal: SnowAnimal
Something to do with Your Body: BigBootyJoanna
Personally, I think we’re wasting time on the details, and there are better ways to spend time that fretting over a screen name!
There’s actually a sugar baby allowance calculator. Wait, there’s even a sugar baby allowance reddit thread!
To help out all the Latinas out there, (shout out to Miami, a HUGE destination for arrangements) I’m adding some stuff in Spanish.
Un Sugar Daddy es alguien que te cuida con plata. Es una persona que sale con mujeres mas joven y les dan dinero para acompanarlos. A veces son viejos de como 70 anos per tiene una novia joven que esta bien bonita.
If you plan to travel to Las Vegas, you might be looking for a single woman for a hookup. Unless you live in the city, it’s easy to miss the best and often hidden places to meet women. It makes no difference if you are traveling to Sin City for pleasure or business, you can still meet the woman you marry or experience a hot one nightstand. Las Vegas is the biggest city in Nevada and located in the center of the desert.
The lights of the city will reach out to you whether you are approaching by car or plane. At night the city glows with lights beaming and flashing in the darkness. You will discover the exceptional dining, luxurious casinos and themed hotels of the Las Vegas Strip.
There are more than 600,000 people living in las Vegas. This means you can choose from a diverse group of women. Although a lot of mixed Asians live on the West Coast, you will find the majority in Las Vegas. The gambling culture of the city drew in many Chinese women to add to the unique flavor of the area. The Asian women you will meet are beautiful with an exotic appearance. There is nothing quite like hooking up with an Asian. Take the following tips into consideration.
Las Vegas is Full of gorgeous gold diggers attracted to wealth. Some of them only want your money. Look for the ones also interested in a hot one nightstand. If you have some extra cash you don’t mind spending, you will find quite a few hot young women looking for a sugar daddy. Make sure you open an account before you arrive if you are interested in finding a sugar baby. No money equals no sugar baby.
The Beauty of Apps
Take the time to research the Las Vegas hook up apps and sign up for the one you like the most. You will unlock the door to find women looking for a good time including the sexiest strippers in the city. You will save time picking up women and benefit from discretion as well. Yes, you will have to spend money on the app but you will save money on drinks, fancy meals and disappointments. Many of the women of Las Vegas know how to party and don’t want to waste time. Do yourself a favor and take a look at the apps out there, especially in the adult themed world. (This site is designed to discuss just that, adult hook up apps! The most most people have had the best success with is the Fling.com app.)
The Local Hotties
It’s hard to figure out Las Vegas beauties. During the summer, a lot of them work at the hotels and can be found by the pools. Some locals avoid the strip and prefer the local casinos including Henderson’s Green Valley Ranch and Summerlin’s Red Rock Casino. If the women like to gamble, try looking at Dotty’s or PT’s Ranch because these places were created for locals. The local women are sweet, beautiful, like to talk and know how to get money from tourists.
Las Vegas thrives on money from tourists. The women will go to extremes to please you to make certain you come back with more money. This means hooking up with a woman working at a bar, strip club, restaurant or Las Vegas show is easy when you leave a big tip. Find out where they are when off work, then casually set up a convenient meeting. The locals want to make friends because most gamblers come to Las Vegas at least a few times every year,
All you have to do to grab their interest is to show them a great time. Many women are not interested in any kind of permanent attachment but want a man on the side offering a great time when they come to the city. You might meet some of her friends for a trip you will never forget. Treat her like a VIP and she will keep coming back for more.
Women come to Las Vegas to party all year. There are plenty of sporting events during the winter for placing bets including NBA basketball, NCAA and NHL hockey. Collegiate and NFL football are available until February. Millions of tourists flock to the city every year for conventions. Every January, corporate women attend the CES. These women want to party. Don’t miss out on the opportunity for a hookup. If you are looking during the day, your best bet is a summer pool party. Nights in Las Vegas are ideal for finding a hottie.
If you are like most of the tourists, you will stay on the strip. The weather is usually good for having a few drinks around the pool. Look for the women wearing skimpy bathing suits taking shots around the pool. They are looking for a hookup. Turn on the charm and offer to buy one of them a drink. Their guard is not up during the day so there is no pressure. The best places to meet women on the Las Vegas Strip are poop parties.
If you see a woman you like in a casino, invite her to a pool party and make sure she has a good time. This is the perfect set up for the night. You can meet women playing a slot machine or in line for a buffet. Give them attention throughout the day for a great time at night. Las Vegas women love attention. Try starting a conversation when the woman doesn’t expect it.
The Chandelier is in the Cosmopolitan Hotel and offers a great drink selection. This multi-level bar is full of cougars interested in the attention of a younger man. If you are looking for a cougar, this is the place to be. Older ladies adore the relaxing and chic atmosphere. They know the staff and are supplied with their favorite drinks such as the extremely popular and delicious Verbena cocktail. Be prepared for high-end prices with the cost for a cocktail between $17 and $20.
The Chandelier is open 24/7 so you can go anytime you like. Take a look at what is available on the different levels, then find a seat in one of the seating or bar areas. Choose your seat according to where the most desirable cougars are located then start hunting. This is not the only place to find cougars. Las Vegas is filled with clubs and bars attracting all different types of women including cougars. You can also find them online and set up a hookup.
Cougars have certain unique qualities often making them stand out from other women. These women have the motivation to hit the town looking for a man. If you want a short-term fling, cougars fit the bill perfectly. Another excellent option is the XS NightClub. The moment you walk into the bar you will see beautiful and sexy older women drinking. This is literally a haven for cougars. The bar is trendy with a great indoor pool. This is your chance to see the women dripping wet.
One of the best places to meet women on the Las Vegas strip is the XS Nightclub. The venue is gorgeous, crazy and wild. If you can dance, you can fill your arms with women. The centralized dance floor makes walking around easy so you can meet more cougars enjoying the party. This is one of the best clubs the city has to offer. Be prepared to pay $20 to get in. Since women on the guestlist can enter for free, you are assured of a good variety.
A lot of men travel to Las Vegas with big dreams. They want to win a fortune at the blackjack tables, win every sports bet and find the hottest women in the city at only the classiest nightclubs. There is no guarantee you will win because the odds favor the house. The good news is you can find the women of your dreams just by being in the right area and staying on the strip.
Your best option is staying at a hotel between the Mandalay Bay and the Encore. If you have the money, the Cosmopolitan is a good choice. If not, the Casino Royale is a lot cheaper. Some of the women aren’t concerned with a higher-end hotel. Many of the black women are more laid back, gorgeous and have no concerns about your room provided it is on the Las Vegas strip. For a sure hookup, stay at the Aria, Venetian, Cosmopolitan, Wynn or Bellagio if you have the money.
These hotels are centrally located, offer great places to pick up women and party, but are also very expensive. Avoid staying at the Mandalay Bay, downtown and Circus Circus. If you are looking for a hookup, your hotel is the key. You have a good shot on the weekends since women fly in from across the country. Hot girls from southern California drive to Las Vegas in the thousands during the weekend. You can always find a party or a great club for the weekend.
Remember the city is going to be extremely crowded for specific holidays. New Year is no longer a good time to visit. The city gets an enormous number of tourists during Labor Day, Memorial Day and the 4th of July. The best part is the number of tourists is not large enough where you have to avoid them. The ratio of men to women is off during big sporting weekends such as March Madness and the Super Bowl. This is not the best time to look for a hookup.
The Best Singles Bars Las Vegas are fantastic for hookups. Some of the very best located right on the strip are described below.
The Wynn or B Bar:
The sexiest ladies in Las Vegas can be found in this bar. You can go there at any time to find a sexy lady. Find someone amazing after lunch or arrange a hookup once the city comes to life after dark. Either way, this is the place you want to be.
The Pepper Mill:
Wait until at least 2:00 a.m. before you visit the Pepper Mill. This is when anyone drinking too much starts to get their second wind and the strippers are looking for some fun after their shift. The cocktails are great, the food is sensational and the fireplace creates just the right environment for meeting one of the gorgeous ladies of Las Vegas.
You will find Rhumbar in the Mirage. This is an ideal place to relax when you need a break from the action. On occasion, you can still meet the woman you are looking for.
If you are near the Cosmopolitan, want a cocktail and a beautiful woman and are willing to pay the price, don’t miss out on the Chandelier.
If you enjoy partying late at night, you have a lot of night clubs to choose from. You will be spending money so be prepared. The popularity of the individual clubs is always changing, but many of them have proven to be popular as time passes. Every single hotel on the Las Vegas Strip provides a night club or after-hours spot for tourists. You have a good chance of getting a VIP pass is you go the nightclub for your hotel. If you are a gambler, you are provided with a casino host to increase your chances.
If you plan to gamble at least a couple thousand every day, get a casino card, a host and track your losses and wins daily. Whether you win or lose, you will get free comps for night clubs, shows, drinks and dinners. This increases your leverage for finding a good hook up. If you decide to leave the strip, check out downtown. This area became trendy quite a few years ago. If you don’t want to dress up just to party, the atmosphere on Fremont Street is ideal. If you want to meet women, go to the Long Bar.
Valet Waiting Areas
Valet waiting areas at the Bellagio, Aria and Wynn Casinos are hot on both Friday and Saturday nights. Park your vehicle in the garage then take a walk to the valet waiting area. This is where you will find all the women leaving work at the clubs such as go-go dancers and bartenders. If they have their own cars, you can be fairly certain they live in the city. What you need to do is pretend you are waiting for a valet to bring your car. Come up with a few good opening lines to score a hookup.
The Borders Books located in Town Square has a lot of beautiful Las Vegas women. You can also try the Blue Martini or Cadillac Ranch but Borders is usually even better because there is not as much competition. Most men would not think of going to a bookstore to arrange a hookup. Most women would rather tell their family or best friend they met you at a bookstore as opposed to a bar. You also eliminate the need to come up with something to talk about. All you have to do is ask the woman her favorite book or what she is currently reading.
Every lady working at the mall visits the food court when it is time for their lunch. Figuring out which ones work in department stores is easy. They are dressed in black and carrying car keys, backpacks and books. Walk up to one of them and ask if you can join them. Tell them you need a woman’s perspective for something important.
The Bottom Line
Las Vegas is a glamorous and exciting city. Although the main reason people visit is gambling, that doesn’t mean they are not looking for a lot of action on the side. So pack your bags, hop on a plane and get ready to have some fun.