So, you were thinking about spicing things up in the bedroom with some hair pulling, but you’re not sure whether your girl will like it or how to do it properly? Don’t worry; we have your back.
In this article, us ladies are going to share with you why pulling on our hair can be a great way to increase heat in the bedroom. Also, we have prepared a detailed guide for you to learn how to do it the right way and make your lady scream in pleasure, not just in pain.
It might sound surprising, but many women like having their hair pulled during sex. A survey conducted by Men’s Health found that hair pulling is the most favorite aggressive move in bed for women.
Furthermore, OkCupid has surveyed its members, and out of 400 000 answers, 62 percent of women said they like it a bit rough in bed and that hair pulling is one thing that turns them very much on.
And we agree with them. But first, let’s see if science and psychology can back us up on this.
The Science Behind the Hair Pulling Fetish
People say that pleasure and pain mix well together, and in this case, it’s true. The nerve centers for pain and sexual arousal in human brains are very close, especially in women. Some say they even overlap, which may trick our brains into confusing pain and pleasure when we are experiencing both at the same time.
So, when you pull on our hair, our blood pressure goes up, our hearts start racing, and our bodies interpret it as sexual excitement. Experts even claim that it causes adrenaline and endorphins to surge through the body, and we definitely want that during our sexcapades.
There’s also something called The Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response (ASMR). The ASMR plays a massive role in whether your lady will love hair pulling. We can best describe it as a tickling, exciting sensation in the brain that some people get during scalp massages, haircuts, or hair pulling. Combined with sexual arousal, it creates the most incredible feeling.
Moreover, there are many nerve endings on the scalp that don’t get touched very often. Pulling on our hair activates those nerve endings and creates tingling up and down the spine.
Hair Pulling as a Form of Dominance
When there’s love, or at least trust, among partners, being grabbed by the hair and unable to move can be a major turn-on. We can do nothing to free ourselves in this scenario, so submission is the only option left. This type of surrender can be liberating.
Although not many girls like to be manhandled in day-to-day life, some surveys found that twice as many women desire rougher sex than men. We want to be dominated because, that way, we can experience men’s strength and leadership. It makes us feel secure, protected and desired.
The Importance of Consent
It’s essential to note here that not every girl likes to be treated in such a manner. It also doesn’t mean that we want to be hurt or mistreated in other aspects of life. That’s why it’s imperative to discuss this matter beforehand.
Some of us are exceptionally sensitive to pain, and pulling on our hair would be an unpleasant experience. On the other hand, if you are being too rough and do it the wrong way (yes, there is a right way to do it), you can easily hurt any one of us and give us a headache.
Also, we are very fond of our hair, especially if we went to a hair salon to make it look beautiful. We wouldn’t want you to mess it up or even, God forbid, pull out our extensions while grabbing it.
As much as you want to be spontaneous and surprise us, that is not desirable when it comes to rough sex. We want to talk it out and give you our consent. That’s the only way we will feel safe and relaxed enough to experiment in bed.
So, the moral of the story is: Alway check with us before you do anything rough, hair pulling included. You don’t want to risk getting your text messages ignored.
Hair Pulling 101
As mentioned before, there is a right and wrong way to pull hair during sex. If you do it properly, you can make our orgasms more intense, but if you don’t, you risk hurting us.
Before you start, remember, timing is everything. Please wait until we are worked up. The more you arouse us, the more pleasure hair pulling will bring.
So, there are two ways you can do it. The first one is easier, and it works well if your girl has long hair. Ask her to tie her hair in a braid or a ponytail. Then, you can either hold it or wrap it around your hand and pull. It shouldn’t hurt her because you are grabbing a large portion of her hair.
The second one is a bit trickier, and it might require some practice. Spread out your fingers, put your fingertips on the back of your girl’s neck and slowly slide them up against the scalp until you reach the back of her head or the crown. It would be best to keep as close as possible to the scalp, and hair should be between your fingers. Turn your wrist slightly and grab. The key is to hold a large portion of hair, not just a few strands.
Of course, you can use your imagination and add something to it, like head and neck massage first.
Proper Technique Is Everything
Go slow. Start with a gentle grip and see how your girl reacts. If she enjoys it, you can gently increase the pressure. You want to aim for the constant pressure, not a jerk movement. If you pull hard once, you can surprise her or cause her pain.
When you want to stop, don’t just let go, but slowly pull downwards so her hair can easily slip out.
You should never tug just a few strands or ends of her hair. Also, try to steer clear of sides and front of the head unless your partner asks you to. Tugging hair in these places can be painful and cause the wrong kind of aggression in your lady.
Hair pulling is a great way to bring some spice into your sex life and exert a bit of dominance over your lady. Odds are she will love it — science has your back on this.
Just make sure you learn the proper way to do it and ask for her permission first. If she’s up for it, grab that pretty hair of hers and let the games begin.